\The Safer Sex Speech

It is super important to have a conversation with every potential sexual partner before you start getting naked! I know some people don't know how to bring it up or what to say. This is why you should come up with a short and sweet little speech that you can remember and say to a potential partner before you get frisky. If you partner is uncomfortable or doesn't want to share their own history it may be a good sign you probably shouldn't be getting busy with them since they don't value their sexual health or yours for that matter. Your speech should include information about who you are as a sexual begin and your sexual history. The CDC guidelines for sexual histories includes information regarding the 5 Ps, and these are the same 5 Ps you should include in your safer sex speech.

Who you are:
Identities and other relevant info.

STI History:
When were you last tested for STIs?
What were you tested for?
What was the status of those tests?
Any other past history of STIs, including treatments?

Partners/Current Relationship:
Are you in a relationship?
With whom?
What relationship rules and boundaries should this partner be made aware of?
Do you have any other partners?

STI/Pregnancy Prevention:
What are your safer sex practices?
Are you fluid bonded with anyone?
Barriers all the time?
Pregnancy Prevention if applicable?

Practices:
What do you like sexually?
What don’t you like sexually?
Hard Limits/Soft Limits?

Other:
Any other particularly risky activities you engage in?
Safe words, aftercare, etc.

Here is an example of a safer sex speech:
Hi, My name is Jane Doe. I am a shy, kinky queer girl. I’m currently in an open relationship with my primary partner and we have been together for a few years. We both have other partners upon occasion, but they are just friends with benefits. My partner and I share everything (details included) so I hope you are ok with that. I was last tested for HIV in April and that test came back negative. I was also tested a few months ago for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, HPV, and all tests were negative. I am fluid bonded with my Primary Partner and therefore we both require condoms, dental dams, and gloves with all other partners. Barriers are non-negotiable. No glove, no love. Got it? Good! I love oral sex (with protection), talking dirty, bondage and maybe a few kinky things but we should probably talk about that first. I’m really not into serious pain, anal sex, marks, bruises, or blood. My safe word is Banana, and I like to snuggle after I play. How about you?

Now go talk to your partner about safer sex.